Anal fisting isn’t as hard as it sounds, if you know what you’re doing and you follow the right tips, you will be fine and I am here to tell you all about anal fisting and how you can follow my guide and become a pro. I am, if you didn’t know, a professional dominatrix, I have people come to me from all over looking for different things and fisting is definitely up there, high on there priority list. I know everything there is to know about anal and vaginal fisting so let’s jump straight into it.
So, You Want To Try Anal Fisting?
If you’re serious about this, it’s definitely something I can help you with. It’s simple, I am here to show you how to fist and how to get fisted. It’s easy and once you get the hang of it, it’s f**king orgasmic, as well as a cool party trick (I see all you cam boys and girls out there).
Good News! I Love Fisting
I love it and I’m going to show you exactly how whilst sharing with you my fisting experiences. I love getting my fist inside of someone and seeing their hole stretch, pleasuring them like never before and feeling their hole tighten around me. It’s a great feeling and one that is often overlooked.
What Should Good Anal Fisting Feel Like?
Before we start it’s good to know what it should feel like and how to avoid injury (I’ll tell you more about injury below). Good fisting should feel good, yes there is some stretch but it shouldn’t feel like it’s tearing, it shouldn’t be painful and it shouldn’t feel like a big, big struggle.
With good fisting, you need to be very, very relaxed and there should be a little stretch, it should feel ‘full’ inside, you will feel a little pressure but a nice pressure, not an unbearable pressure, it should feel pleasurable and like an achievement. Never painful.
Time To Start Fisting (How To)
Follow my guide and learn exactly how to fist someone, whether you’re a receiver looking for tips for your top or if you’re giver looking to give your sub some fisting love, this will help. If you have any questions or anything I haven’t covered that you want to know about, just leave your comments in the section below.
I Start By Preparing You For My Fist
This is so important, sometimes people forget how important it is to actually have a prepped fist. Obviously, before fisting, most people have had a bowel movement, an enema and are generally groomed and clean down there but people tend to disregard the actual fist.
- Firstly, ensure your hand is totally clean. Really get in there and clean under your nails and inside each crevice. You do not want to be spreading any nasty bacteria. You can also wear doctors gloves if you prefer or if you are with a new partner, however, it is still important that your hand is clean, glove or not.
- Make sure to not forget to cut and file your nails, it will cause issues if you leave them long or with spikey bits so really take your time on filing them and keeping them nice and short. Check and check again that you have got any bits that may be sticking out or rough.
- I like to wax my hands so that they are nice and smooth, removing the small bits of hair from my forearms and fingers. This isn’t essential but it makes me feel good and it does make my arm smoother for insertion.
Then I get one of my special toys…
My Collection Of Anal Fisting Toys (Beginner To Advanced)
Before I begin to insert my fist I like to use some sex toys to really prep the ass or vagina. I find giving the person an orgasm and really relaxing and naturally lubricating the area makes it so much easier for when the fist comes later. Really focus on teasing the area, getting the person all worked up and giving them an orgasm or two. Below is my collection of the sex toys I like to use when prepping my little plaything.
Anal Kit (Beginner-Advanced – Amazing)
This kit is amazing to start off with, it gives you everything you will need to get started with backdoor action. Featuring 5 butt plugs all increasing in size, you can tease and test your ass in stages. These butt plugs are easy to insert, a flared base so that they don’t ride up inside of you and they are perfect for beginners all the way to more advanced anal angels. Even if you are a pro at fisting, opening up your ass and teasing it is still very important as the muscles do contract back to normal after play and do need slowly opening up again next time around.
Anal Dildo (Beginner):
Measuring in at 7-inches with a girth of 4.75 inches, this beginner anal dildo can be secured onto any flat surface or in a harness to really prep your ass or vagina for fisting pleasure. Ride this dildo and open up your little hole, enjoy the pleasure and where possible try and get yourself or your partner to an orgasm, as it really, really loosens them up. It’s a great dildo as it can be used solo or with a partner, which is exactly what I love from a dildo like this one. I can leave my clients riding it whilst I busy myself with other things.
Long Suction Cup Dildo (Intermediate): Perfect for getting used to deep play
In order to really get my clients used to some deep play and to really try and warm up their holes, I use this extra long dildo. It has an insertable length of 10-inches and it can be used hands-free or in a harness so depending on them you can have some pretty diverse play. It’s a realistic-looking dildo, which really adds something and if you’re like my clients, you will love the feeling of taking something so big.
Inflatable Butt Plug (Beginner-Intermediate)
Using an inflatable butt plug is the ideal way to really experience the ‘stretched out’ sensation. You insert the butt plug as you would normally and then you use the attached pump to inflate the butt plug to your desired size. It’s easy to deflate and it’s a great way to test your boundaries and really get your ass ready and prepped for fisting.
Inflatable Anal Dildo (Intermediate):
Just like the butt plug above this inflatable penis butt plug does essentially the same thing. However, if you prefer the shape and feel of a penis and you’re looking for something a little longer, this inflatable dildo allows you to insert it and then inflate, deflating only when you wish and pumping size into the dildo to increase pleasure and stretching sensations.
Large Butt Plug (Advanced) :
This is a large butt plug for those who don’t need as much teasing and warming up before fisting begins. This butt plug measures a delicious 7-inches, it’s rippled for extra pleasure and it is flared so it won’t ride up inside of you. It’s perfect to really get the juices flowing and teasing your ass into submission before my fist decides it wants a turn with you.
Large Anal Beads (Advanced):
These large anal beads are not for the inexperienced among us, these beads are to be mastered. They provide your ass with one hell of a workout and give you a nice taster into the fisting sensations. They are to be lubed up at all times and guided in slowly, the ring pull allows for easy retrieval, although once they’re in I can’t guarantee you will want them out once you feel how good they feel.
Thick Cock (Advanced):
With 7-inches in length to insert and an incredible 10-girth this thick, realistic cock is a challenge even for those used to stretching open their holes. It can be used hands-free or in a harness, making it ideal for couples. It’s a real challenge to master but this big cock sure is one to be remembered.
Getting My Trusty Anal Lube (Boy Butter)
Boy Butter: Amazing for fisting, this lube is non-drying, silky smooth, non-tacky and it lasts. You only need a small amount, the consistency is so smooth, it doesn’t dry up into anything and it lasts during any type of play. I love it for fisting as it coats my hand and wrist nicely without being tacky and it allows my hand to glide into the ass.
Anal Jelly: The thick texture of this jelly allows sex toys, cocks and hands to glide in, it’s made from high-quality ingredients that offer you a smooth entry, giving you the best outcome for your fisting adventures. However, you can’t use this jelly with latex condoms or latex sex toys as it is oil-based.
Warming Up Your Asshole
Warming up your ass is the key factor in ensuring your fisting goes to plan. It’s so important and I can’t emphasize enough how warmed up you have to be.
I like to make my clients cum a few times, use my fingers, smaller toys, larger toys and even leaving a butt plug in during foreplay is ideal. Even if you are fisting yourself make sure you are warmed up, get nice and naturally lubricated, orgasm a few times, play with yourself and really try and relax.
Are you ready for my fist?
Once I have used a few smaller toys I will move on to the medium and larger sized sex toys. Such as this medium-sized butt plug and this larger dildo that I mentioned above.
Once I have played with you with these sex toys for a little while it will finally be time to move on when I think you are nice and relaxed and ready for my fist.
Finally, You’re Ready For My Fist
I start slow, always. I start with sharp shallow thrusts with just a few of my fingers in a ducks head, like a shadow puppet. I slowly inch my fingers inside, slowing thrusting in and out of the ass, you do not want to poke here or make a fist, that’s when you’re actually inside. You want to slowly ease your way in with your ducks head shape fingers, move your whole arm, reframe from poking motion, instead you want slow, strong thrusts, that are not deep.
Inch your way in slowly, rotate your hand from side to side whilst still keeping your hands in a ducks head shape. Slowly does it and eventually, I will find my whole fist inside of your ass, that’s when you can create a fist to really please them.
You can also try a fisting glove, it stops issues with sharp nails and other things that can cause tearing. Some people also prefer them for roleplay reasons and others just prefer not to get their hand in there and use a glove instead.
Pop! My Fist Is Deep Inside
Once I am fully inside, I create a fist with my hand and start with deep, strong thrusts, Not just in and out, I stimulate the P-spot by putting pressure on it with each thrust. This pressure it was creates the pleasure and the orgasms. If you are fisting a woman this also stimulates her ass if you are inside of her vagina.
I am still careful when inside, ensuring the hole is nice and lubricated and I am listening to their body. Calculated thrusts make for an exciting time for my clients.
Extreme Fisting?
If extreme fisting is more of your thing, it’s useful to know that some people sometimes fist with two hands and use seriously large toys (larger than hands). These people work themselves up to that level, you cannot go straight in with extreme fisting, you must be patient and cautious.
Always know your limits, understand there can be risks with large toys. Especially if you are new to fisting. Also, a quick word of warning to never use a toy that isn’t meant for anal sex (stuff gets lost really quick, always look for a flared base or a ring pull.
Questions I Get About Fisting
Below I am going to answer some of the most common questions I get about fisting, I get these from clients and from people reading my blog and sending them in so if you have any questions that haven’t been answered here feel free to leave them in the comments below and I will back to you.
Can You Use Your Own Hand?
Yes, of course, you can, it’s where most people start. It’s how people discover they may enjoy fisting. When using your own hand, ensure it’s clean and use plenty of lube. Test different positions as different positions feel better for different people. Experiment with yourself and test your own boundaries.
Is There A Difference Between Female/Male Fisting?
Not particularly. I find men have a deeper anus to explore and they do tend to cum a lot quicker than women as you can focus directly on the P-spot but with women, you have the G-spot stimulation and the combined vaginal/anal stimulation to play with. Both are fun to fist and there’s not a whole lot of difference.
Does Practice Make Perfect?
Absolutely it does. It can be hard to jump into it and get it right the first time. With fisting, the best angle to take is to start slowly, stretch your butt, get it used to play and get it used to taking larger sex toys and fingers. Really learn your boundaries and experiment with different sizes. Get your butt used to play and remember to relax and breathe.
Will My Butt Go Back To Normal?
Yes, just like the vagina. Your butt muscles naturally retract back into place. You may feel constipated the day afterward and some people have said they notice their poop to be bigger for a while but that’s the only real thing people notice. Obviously, if you tear or prolapse you’re going to have issues but if you’re careful and take precautions you will be fine.
My Fist Just Won’t Fit?
If your fist won’t fit into your vagina, this may be because vaginas do have a wall that will eventually stop you from inserting any more. Your butt doesn’t have this wall so you should be able to take a whole lot more. Your ass is able to be stretched, you just got to relax and take your time. Use inflatable anal butt plugs and dildos, they are amazing for slowly stretching, spend a lot of time warming up. Get a butt plug set (small to large) and play with them too. You will get there!
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